Many people say they aren't good at negotiating to buy a car. This is partly because people see negotiating as confrontational and they dread conflict. But with a change of perspective and a few simple negotiating tips, you can potentially save thousands of dollars when you buy your next car.

Negotiating for a new or used car is easier than most people think, if you follow a few simple tips.

Where to Begin?

It may seem like the negotiation begins when you and the salesperson sit down in a sales office at the dealership. But really your part of the negotiation starts earlier, by knowing the right price range for the car and having a couple other dealer price quotes at the ready. More about that a little later.

When you are sitting with a salesperson, the conversational opener may well be: "What monthly payment would comfortably fit into your budget?"

It's important that you sidestep this question because it's hard to track the price of the car when the salesperson presents it as a monthly payment. Instead, tell the salesperson you will talk about financing later and you just want to discuss the purchase price of the car for now. The salesperson will usually check with the manager then come back with a price. You may not like that price, however, and this is where the negotiation begins.

After the salesperson presents the price, you could respond with: "We've done a lot of research on what this car sells for and we've shopped around a bit. If you can beat this price (here's where you present your best price quote from another dealership) we will have a deal."

A response like this accomplishes a couple things. First, it lets the salesperson know that you're an informed buyer. Your goal is to justify the drop in price rather than present an offer without context. Second, the salesperson knows there are offers to beat. So there is a good chance the salesperson is going to jump to the low end of the dealership's pricing structure.

If you are shopping for a used car, where apples-to-apples comparisons aren't possible, your goal is to make an offer that is as low as possible but still in the ballpark.

For a new or used car, the key to a successful negotiation is a grasp of the numbers behind the deal.

Zeroing in on the Right Price

Knowing the right price for a car is a simple matter of getting price quotes and looking up the car on the Edmunds True Market Value (TMV®) pricing page. Start by calling or texting a few nearby dealers to get a range of prices. Ask for the internet sales manager, and in that discussion, make sure the car has all the options you want. You can also search Edmunds' inventory and look for any special offers that will give you a few upfront prices from dealers in your area.

Use TMV pricing to create your negotiating strategy. Pay attention to the trim level and options on the car to make sure you're making an accurate comparison. If you're shopping for a new car, look at the TMV price and see where it lies relative to the manufacturer's suggested retail price (MSRP) and the invoice price. If you're shopping for a used car, look at the "dealer retail" TMV price. Keep in mind that TMV is an average. Your goal is to get a price below it, but if it is a little higher, that's OK too.

If you're the first to make the offer, give yourself room for the dealership to counter. You should know ahead of time what your opening offer will be, how you will counter the dealer's offer and what your highest price will be. Then when you're in the heat of the moment, you won't get flustered. You will negotiate like a pro.

Many car buyers seem reluctant to make a low offer. Often people say they are afraid the salesperson will laugh at them or become angry or act insulted. And yet if you think about it, the salesperson is really doing the same thing with you, but starting with a higher offer and working down. Knowing that you've done some research should give you a bit more confidence in recognizing a good price and knowing when to counter.

Here are a few additional tips to help you get a good deal on your next car:

  • Don't buy a car in a hurry (unless you have no choice). And don't go into the dealership unprepared. The salesperson may draw you into negotiations before you are ready.
  • Check all the numbers and ask for the out-the-door price.
  • Read online reviews of the dealership before you begin negotiating. Start with a dealership that has good customer reviews.
  • Plan to spend a chunk of time at the dealership.With the test drive, the negotiating and the financing process, you might be there for four hours or more. Eat before you go: You want to be able to think clearly. You can speed things up by being prepared for all the car-buying paperwork.Shopping midweek rather than on the weekend will cut down on the time you spend at the dealership.
  • Don't enter negotiations with a salesperson who intimidates you. Negotiating should be a relatively comfortable win-win process. If you get uneasy, ask for the sales manager and request a different salesperson. Or "test-drive" your salesperson before you even get to the dealership.
  • Get multiple quotes and ask the salesperson to beat your best price.
  • Always remember to walk out if you don't reach a deal you like.

And, finally, know your negotiating style and use your unique qualities to your advantage. You won't get what you want unless you ask for it. And negotiating is just another way of asking for what you really want.