After driving several SUVs, my wife and I narrowed it down to the MDX, Lexus 350, and the Tribeca. We chose the Tribeca Limited. The Tribeca was a good combination of sport and comfort with a reasonable price tag.
Back-up camera, steering, performance, quietness, solid feel, navi, interior, stereo...the list goes on. Subaru's all wheel drive is perfect for northeastern driving.
Telescoping steering would be nice but not a dealbreaker. Cooled seats. Better gas mileage or bigger fuel tank is needed for longer trips.