You must stop looking for a car! The Honda CR-V is where you need to be. Hondas have been reliable for us since 2005, when we bought our first Odyssey. Now we have a Civic, fit and now a CR-V. The ride is soft yet firm around turns. However, road noise is a bit excessive.
Smooth ride, navi is great, sound system is powerful.
Maybe integrate the active sound control system that is used in the Accord crosstour