After months of careful research and test drives at BMW, Lexus, Volvo, etc. I settled on the MDX without a doubt in mind. I love the way the car handles, no stiffness or resistance in the steering or acceleration. The interior design is a little Star Trek for me, but once I figured everything out, it is a pleasure to have all the extras (XM radio, navigation, Bluetooth, backup camera, etc.)
The self-adjusting side mirrors which rotate to give you a view of the curb/lines as you back up. Makes backing into parking spaces and parallel parking a breeze, along with the back-up camera. Also a fan of the push-to-talk for my cell phone.
Auto-open for the back hatch should be standard. There IS an iPod link in all MDX (I don't know why people are saying there's not) it's inside the center console. Buy an AUX cord and you're good to go (looks like a two-way headphone connector.) Fuel economy around 20/22 for me, but hey, it's an SUV.